Answer by R Star for How should I accept hurtful feedback from a colleague?
And, finally, how does one make clear that such feedback was hurtful on a personal level? I don't feel that anyone answered this question in a direct or practical manner. The ABC Statement is an...
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I would always rather receive painful feedback, than have people avoid telling me something to protect my feelings. Nobody's perfect (including me), and we all have huge blind spots to our flaws. It's...
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... I was considered "embarrassing" and that my companions did not wish to be associated with me because of this... I consider this statement to be abusive. Making vague allegations backed by vague...
View ArticleAnswer by user38 for How should I accept hurtful feedback from a colleague?
How does one accept feedback that is personally hurtful? Welcome to work. We've all had a time in our lives where a boss, colleague or subordinate has decided for whatever reason to criticise. It...
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I was considered "embarrassing" and that my companions did not wish to be associated with me because of this ...seems a bit emotionally charged, and I wouldn't consider it valuable feedback. If you...
View ArticleAnswer by Atif for How should I accept hurtful feedback from a colleague?
The difference between constructive criticism and not is often clear. You need to separate what's constructive in their criticism (specific behaviors that can be avoided) and what is not (name-calling,...
View ArticleAnswer by Nicole for How should I accept hurtful feedback from a colleague?
It sounds like you are asking how to deal with it in the moment, not in the long term. I'll try to help with both. Why would someone say such a thing? Knowing how to react is going to require...
View ArticleAnswer by Scott C Wilson for How should I accept hurtful feedback from a...
You don't have to respond immediately; what you did was fine. But sometime when you've recovered it might be worth drilling into this - what about your behavior was "embarrassing" to the person who...
View ArticleAnswer by atconway for How should I accept hurtful feedback from a colleague?
Removing yourself from the situation was a good call. Reacting in an emotional manner (aggresive, defensive, upset, etc.) is not a great idea on the spot. Usually in a time like this it works best to...
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Following a networking event, I was told that I was considered "embarrassing" and that my companions did not wish to be associated with me because of this. I personally found this exceedingly hurtful;...
View ArticleAnswer by Atif for How should I accept hurtful feedback from a colleague?
Were you really embarassing?You can answer that. You were there.Do it matters?Suppose you were embarrassing. So what? I am not a professional actor or a public speaker. If I fail on stage its okay. Its...
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